Your Smile vs. Your Pain

Its that time of year again when we open our hearts and shine the light of gratitude for what we have and reach out to help others in need. But what happens when your own spirit has lost its shine and your emotions are not where they should be. Feelings of guilt begin to manifest as you realize your obvious moment of selfishness. How can you be thinking of yourself and your own woes during this time of thanksgiving?

What do you do when I’m the outside, you have it all together but on the inside you are broken all the way through?

Understand that this is not something that just happened but rather the result of many days, perhaps weeks, months and/or year that you have neglected to tend to yourself. It just so happened a that it chose to show up at this time. So where do you go from here?

First of all embrace the notion that you need to make yourself a priority in your own life. Your mind, body, and spirit must be nurtured in order for your life to reflect what you truly want.

Secondly, realize that it’s ok to feel a little off balance. This is the acknowledgement that something needs to change. Without being able to tap into those emotions, people tend to remain in a state where there is no forward movement.

Thirdly, you must develop the capacity to open up your spirit to the possibilities. Greatness will come but it may be with great struggle and pain. You must embrace the fact that there is more to your life then what is happening in this current state.

Finally, if you are stuck in a state of unrest, struggle and even feelings of defeat, know that there is a brighter day coming. We may be tossed by the wind and beat down by life experiences, but we can get up again.

Don’t worry, if you find yourself in this state often, feeling not as happy and at peace as you desire, know that this is just a reminder that there is something greater for you. It will depend on you as to when you will truly embrace who you are becoming in spite of your pain.

Find the joy in each day. Change what you need to change. Think about those things that bring you happiness. Do the things that bring you the most peace. In order for your life to reflect love, you must learn to love yourself. You do this by taking special care to make yourself a priority. Then and only then will your outward appearance and your inward emotions be in sync.

©️Kim Seymore -Inspired Serenity by Kim Seymore November 2018

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